Our Story for Gateway Domestic Violence Center

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Be kind to yourself

Battered Wives have something in common.  We are all multi taskers.  We juggle a lot.  It takes enormous effort to keep everything looking normal to outsiders.  We tip toe on egg shells trying to avoid our partners.  One false move and we're going to get it.  It is exhausting. 

Is this how you feel today?  Are you exhausted? 

I want you to do just one act of kindness for yourself.  It can be going to the library find a great book to read.  It can be a bubble bath.  It can be painting your nails.  It can be going for a walk.  It doesn't matter what the activity is, just do it for yourself.  One thing every day.  It doesn't have to take long.  If all you have is five minutes a day for yourself, that's OK.  You make those five minutes count.  It's just for you and it's your little secret.

We lose who we are when we are living the nightmare of domestic violence.  I know I lost myself and it took years to find myself again.  I was so used to being told what to do and when to do it that I lost the inner voice that used to tell me what my dreams and goals are.

By doing a simple little thing for yourself every day will help save you from becoming totally lost. Use those minutes to clear your mind.  Try not to think about what's bothering you.  Just let it go for a little while.  Be still and listen out for your own inner voice.  She has so much to tell you.

I know you are doing the best you can.  I am praying for you.

Love, Abigail

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